Mom's Wish

To all of my family who disrespected me, my brother, and my sister by not attending our mom's funeral and not showing us the least bit of support.

A funeral is not about the deceased. It is about the surviving family. The deceased is dead and nothing you do can hurt them anymore.

So when you ignored my mothers funeral the only people that you hurt was my sister, brother and myself.

My mother and father attended all of your mother an fathers funerals. I know because I'm the one who drove them and later pushed my father in his wheel chair. So I am very aware of how many times we made time to support and comfort you in your grief.

We didn't have enough people to even have pallbearers.

You claimed that you had important things to do.

Yet you couldn't be bothered to even send flowers.

She had four bouquets. I made one from our pink peonies. The other three where a poor reflection on your appreciation to the woman who was always there for your parents and to those three I give my undying gratitude for remembering common decency and at least showing my sister, brother, and I, that your thoughts where with us.

Those of you who graciously called me and shared your condolences for my loss; well the list is short, thank you Peggy.

Kevin, I know if you could, you would have been here. I am sorry that I missed your mom's funeral. I am deeply ashamed that I didn't find out until it was too late. Again I apologize and ask your forgiveness.

To all those who attended:

I wish to say that I will always love you and cherish the time you gave to us in our time of need.

To those who did this out of malicious intent:

I forgive you and will always love you even when your mean or negligent to me or mine.

To those who couldn't attend:

I missed you, and yes, I still love you all and understand that life is not always easy.

Because that is what my mom and everyone who has passed before us would want from me and you; to forgive.

Even when your heart is full of hurt and sadness.

Forgive.